Posts Tagged ‘Dr. Judith Wright’
Friday, May 14th, 2010 by Angela
My colleague, Kate, sent me the quote: “A vision without a task is merely a dream; a task without a vision is drudgery; but a vision with a task is the hope of the world.” I had just finished leading our Vision in Action training. Her quote made me think maybe we should call the training Vision With Action.
More importantly, it reminded me that my victimhood of feeling overworked, burned out, or not being nourished is when I am in task mode only and I have lost sight of the bigger picture or vision. Thus, a little vision and a little hard work go a long way. It gets us out of the drama triangle, promotes responsibility and creates nourishment. Now that sounds like fun!
Vision and Action (Task) to me it is another example harmonizing of the masculine and feminine values. Vision is the feminine and task is the masculine. Without this harmony, there is no hope. Without this harmony, our world continues to stay out of balance and in trouble. With it, there can be peace. Both are necessary and important. One is not more important than the other.
What would it take to create this harmony? I think it takes being more conscious, living purposefully, and taking responsibility for my actions. I know I can’t do it alone and I need other like minded people on the journey. If you are looking for something to get you re-focus or to remember what matters and why you are doing what you are doing, if you are a woman and want to learn more about understanding feminine power and harmonizing the masculine and feminine values join Dr. Judith Wright on her Woman’s essential training http://wrightliving.com/programs/more-life-program/year-of-more/spirit-and-purpose.php
What do you think it takes to create the harmony of the masculine and feminine?
Angela
Tags: Dr. Bob Wright, Dr. Judith Wright, Life purpose, masculine and feminine values, vision
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Friday, April 23rd, 2010 by Angela
As I get closer to 50, I can’t imagine retiring. It’s not because I don’t have enough savings, it’s not because I am addicted to work, it’s because I love living. I love learning and growing and being an active member of society. I have been working with several individuals who are 60 or older and some are in the question of retirement. I support one individual who is 82 and he is looking at what more can he be doing. For those that aren’t like my 82 yo I have been in the question with them about loving life. Loving their life exactly where they are because this is all they have. I have challenged them to look at how much life they are missing out on if they spend 8 hours or more a day at work, 2 hours traveling to and from work and are just waiting and biding time to be done. Done with what? Work? Life?
How much life have you missed out on because you are saving your money for retirement? How much have you hated your work and keep looking forward to the end of the day- or the Thank God its Friday syndrome? I think enjoy those things now! Integrate them into your life and find ways to do them. Besides, you are younger and we never know what your life will be like later. You don’t even know if you will be here!
Dr. Bob Wright has taught me about the concept of work is play and play is work. Both he and Dr. Judith Wright have talked about studies that hard work brings happiness and the more we keep our brains engaged in learning even as we age, the greater likelihood of having a better old age.
I have wondered why call it retirement. If you look at the definition of retire it means to stop working willingly, stop engaging in daily activities, withdrawal. To me that sounds like heading towards death. Now, I realize the reality of we will die someday. However, that definition doesn’t sound like a great way to spend the final years of one’s life.
I would like it to be called inspirement or even aspirement. I know those aren’t words but look at the definition of inspire. It means to cause a creative activity, stimulate someone to do something, provoke a particular feeling. Aspire it so have a particular ambition, fly high. I think in my later years, even if not working I would rather be provoking feelings in others (the positive kind) or stimulating them. I would even rather focus on being ambitious even if it was about dying well. What do you think about the word retirement? Would you vote for the change to inspirement or aspirement?
Angela
Tags: Career, Coaching, Dr. Bob Wright, Dr. Judith Wright, retirement
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Friday, March 26th, 2010 by Angela
We all know the famous Bermuda Triangle- but what is more deadly is getting trapped in the drama triangle. I was reading Barb Burgess blog http://wrightleadership.com/blog/?p=665 and decided to join her in taking responsibility for the circumstances in my life.
I actually do love my life although you wouldn’t always know it. I get stressed out, feel terrified of not being able to get everything done as well as angry and I want to blame the planet for my circumstances and my schedule. (Which if you know what I do, is a joke because I control my schedule!) I lose sight of what matters to me and what my mission is. When in the drama triangle- I trust most people wish I was in the Bermuda Triangle!
This week Dr. Judith Wright taught a lesson on shame, blame and justification in her Year of MORE class (something she teaches on the MORE life training as well). This is basically the drama triangle consists of 3 roles- the persecutor, the victim and the rescuer. I tend to enjoy being the persecutor which is just a cover up for being a justified victim. I also play the victim. I seldom play the rescuer in my life. I get amazed at how quickly I can jump from role to role in a matter of minutes. It is scary how good I am in each role. It is not fun.
Well, that drama triangle was at full force this week for me with some new work objectives and changes we are implementing at work. I was in lots of stinking thinking- “if you only knew my schedule”, “if you just understood what I really do”, “live in my shoes for one week” and there were a lot of other fuming thoughts that weren’t serving me at all. They were only keeping me stuck, unexpressed and tired. It was so tiring.
Then I remembered, the only way out is through responsibility. Once I took responsibility for my feelings, took responsibility for what I wanted, talked about my feelings and what I wanted- there was a new world in front of me. I was able to talk about my fears, what mattered to me, what I wanted, what I yearned for. I could see clearly, I could talk to people, I could enjoy my day! It was a miracle! Not a miracle- but intention. Intention to take responsibility for creating great circumstances and appreciating the life I have and love. Thanks Barb
Angela
Tags: Dr. Judith Wright, drama triangle, More Life Training, responsibility, Year of More
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Wednesday, March 10th, 2010 by Barb
According to The Week, a Florida man lost a suit over “defective” underwear.
http://www.theweek.com/article/index/102223/Florida_man_loses_suit_over_034defective034_underwear
He supposedly hadn’t noticed until the end of his weeklong vacation in Hawaii. Does that mean he didn’t wear them all week or that he never took them off????
But seriously, how out of touch must you be that you don’t notice every day that your underwear is badly irritating you.? This one definitely comes under the “get a life” heading for me. I’d love to see this guy in our More Life training – I think he would flee when we talk about taking responsibility for your life!
Although I can’t say that I have blamed anyone for my bad underwear lately, I do know that there are a million little ways I like to blame my circumstances or other people for things that don’t go my way.
This week I’m rededicating myself to taking responsibility for creating great circumstances and for appreciating the life I have. Want to join me?
Tags: Dr. Bob Wright, Dr. Judith Wright, personal responsibility, The More Life Training, the wright leadership institute
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Wednesday, March 10th, 2010 by Beryl
Most of us struggle with bad habits that cost us time, money, energy and self-esteem. To make it worse, we often feel helpless to give up our “drug” of choice: sugar, carbs, tv, oversleeping, internet surfing, etc. The truth is that these habits prevent us from having the life we really want, the relationships we really want, and the quality of life we really want. But underneath these bad habits – which Dr. Judith Wright of the Wright Leadership Institute calls “Soft Addictions” – are feelings of insecurity, fear, worthlessless, and pain. The bad habits are merely the symptoms – getting underneath them to what’s really going on is the key – and the benefits can be astounding: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/connie-bennett/my-abcs-of-breaking-sugar_b_448407.html. I know it sounds too good to be true, but if you want to have a rockin engaged life filled with aliveness, intimacy and growth, take a good look at your bad habits and what’s really underneath them. I am living proof.
Tags: aliveness, bad habits, Dr. Judith Wright, energy, engaged life, fear, growth, insecurity, intimacy, money, pain, Relationships, self-esteem, Soft Addictions, time, worthlessness, wright leadership institute
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Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010 by Angela
I don’t mean through cell phones, internet- facebook, linked in and the next and best gadget that is out there. I mean are you connected to yourself and what you value and what matters most to you. Connectedness is a feminine principle. It is about relationship and about living in the here and now. Traditionally, women have been the ones to hold the relationship and the importance of being connected. However, with the emphasis in our world on masculine values and standards, fewer and fewer woman are holding the importance of the feminine values. We are losing something about what it means to be women.
If you think about it, few of us spend little time in the present moment. We are racing to be successful and have more but we are missing in having those things while having more life and more connection. We probably spend more time numbing ourselves down through food, alcohol, internet and trying to have it all. Moments go by and we can’t even remember what happened or we have forgotten how to truly experience a moment in a way that it makes a fulfilling.
I have learned a lot from Dr. Judith Wright and her books on the One Decision and Soft Addictions. She has challenged me through her various trainings, MORE life training and the Woman’s Essential about what it means to be a woman. It has brought me more to living in the moment and valuing what matters to me. I have created more meaning and connection in my life while being successful from using her skills.
As women, I find that we think of ourselves last yet they always tell you if a plane is going down, you need to put yours on first in order to help those around you. Even though we know that, we still don’t really live like that. I challenge you to consider would you give a weekend to yourself to really learn more about what it takes to have a fulfilling, meaningful life? Would you be willing to do what it takes? If you are, check out the morelifetraining.com site or judithwright.com. Let me know your thoughts.
Tags: connection, Dr. Judith Wright, meaning, More Life Training, Soft Addictions, woman
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Monday, March 1st, 2010 by Abby
For the past two weeks my television has pretty much constantly been on one of the Olympic Channels. I’ve watched some athletes win the gold, others I’ve watched lose the race of their lifetime—some have been injured and their dreams diverted or put on hold, while others have recognized their dreams and become an inspiration for thousands.
Clearly, I love the Olympics. And, I know I’m not alone. As the games were coming to a close last night I tried to put my finger on what it is exactly that draws us into these games…?
I was watching downhill skiing last week and heard an announcer talking about the athlete’s “commitment to excellence”, which sparked a light bulb in my head. These athletes are an inspiration because they dedicate their lives to achieving their goals. They consciously, consistently CHOOSE to dedicate themselves to their sport. They choose to get out of bed at 5 am for training, they choose to try a quadruple axel even though its never been done, they choose to ski on bruised shins—the decision to train and to be an Olympic athlete is not a one time thing. Once made, the athletes have to continue to make that decision over and over again, choice-by-choice, day-by-day.
I didn’t exactly relate athletes making a commitment to excellence with my own life. It wasn’t until I heard Dr. Judith Wright speaking on Sunday about her book The One Decision (www.judithwright.com) that I got what it means for my life. To be great, to live great, to feel great – we must commit ourselves to that great life. Perhaps my commitment will lead me to athletics, or owning my own business, or maybe it will just help me to be the best parent or person I can be. I see that I have to dedicate myself to my goals and then continue to use my decision in each choice that I make.
None of us want to be average, or mediocre. And the athletes at the Olympics are far from average. I ultimately think that it is their commitment that keeps them coming back each day—no matter the pain, the heartbreak, the hurt—their dedication overrides all of that.
Olympic athletes commit themselves to excellence – what will you commit to?
Tags: commitment, dedication, Dr. Judith Wright, Olympics, sports, The One Decision
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Wednesday, February 24th, 2010 by Gertrude
A chick flick it is not, but “Wow!” is Avatar a movie packed with feminine power! I saw the movie the first time a month ago with my family and enjoyed it very much. I thought it was beautiful and the messages around protecting the environment were clear. Last night I went again. This time I saw it in an Imax theatre in full 3-D surround sound. The bigger difference, however, was that I was with eleven other women that I am in a woman’s leadership development program (WILD). Dr. Judith Wright gave us the assignment to watch the movie and look for where feminine power and feminine values are present.
First of all, going to a movie with an “assignment” makes it an even richer experience. I felt deeply moved by the movie. The main character, Jake, transforms from being a disgruntled injured Marine only looking out for himself into a warrior who goes to battle to save the indigenous people and environment of the planet he is on. He is trained by a woman who teaches him both the warrior ways of her people as well as their deep connection and love for the Mother as She reveals Herself in nature. Even the woman Marine who is very “tough” uses her masculine energy in the service of protecting feminine values. This is some of what I saw. What did you see?
Tags: Dr. Judith Wright, feminine power, feminine values, Leadership, transformation, Women, women leadership
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Monday, February 15th, 2010 by Gertrude
All professions require ongoing training to stay on top of their fields. For me as a life coach staying on top of my field actually means a commitment to a lifelong journey of personal growth and development. It is not just about “knowing” what is going on in a certain field and learning new techniques it is about a way of life and growing, stretching and ultimately transforming in every area of my life on an ongoing basis. Daunting!
My bosses, Drs Bob and Judith Wright, have told this to me many times and I understood it as a concept, but honestly minimized its importance over the years until recently. I made erroneous assumptions that because I am “around” it all the time and have a created a life I love I could, well, rest on my laurels and let that carry me.
When I was offered the opportunity to go to an outside training (with a competitor no less) I was resistant and superior. I went into the training with that attitude and not surprisingly didn’t get much out of it for the first day and a half. Not because it wasn’t good, but because I was too busy comparing and being superior. Fortunately, I realized this was getting me nowhere so I chose to engage and really benefited. I also signed up for their next level of training.
It was deciding to go into the next training with full intention to get as much out of it as possible for my own development that I came away personally and professionally transformed. The big theme I worked on was living a life of integrity and I have been working it in all areas of my life. #MORELIFE4YOU# In particular as a coach I am feeling more in integrity. Seeing my gaps and being on my cutting edge is not only making an impact in my sessions it is more fun!
Tags: Dr. Bob Wright, Dr. Judith Wright, integrity, landmark education, life choace training, living a great life, Personal Growth
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Friday, January 29th, 2010 by Angela
Drs. Bob and Judith Wright are leading the Personal Power Weekend for the Year of MORE program this weekend. I was thinking about how personal power and transformation are connected. I get so caught up sometimes that transformation is about fixing something or changing it. I realize most of the time there really isn’t anything to fix. Transformation is about learning and growing. It is about being in the moment and responding to this moment- not some past moment. I am discovering it is about exercising my personal power.
They teach that power is the ability to do work. I get a lot of things done. Thus, I would say I exercise a lot of personal power. However, I was beginning to realize that I have way more power that can be utilized and harnessed. I have the ability to scan a situation, hear what is being said, realize where the integrity outs are, the excuses, etc. fairly quickly. When I am present I see a world of possibilities. However, my ability to assert myself often comes with a tone in my voice, condescension to the other person or something else. So, my perspective doesn’t get heard or valued even though the data I am offering is accurate in the moment. I don’t have personal power in those situations and there are costs of various kinds- money, time, reputation, etc.
I am becoming more aware of how I say things and asking for feedback from my peers to support me in transforming and using my power more effectively. Where have you not been effective in personal power and how have you learned?
Tags: Dr. Bob Wright, Dr. Judith Wright, Personal Growth, personal power, transformation
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