Would you prefer to save at least $19.99  a month for sites like match.com or eHarmony? Would you like to not to pay $35 for a speed-dating event? Me too. In fact, I have surrounded myself with people who have HUGE networks, and when I was ready to start dating again, I asked to tap their networks. For free.

There was one woman in our singles program who offered me the chance to glance through her 700 “friends” on facebook and see who I liked, and she would make the connection. Yet another woman in my singles program ran through over 200 phone numbers in her cell phone and start texting men she thought would be a good match for me! Wouldn’t you know that 2 responded within 5 minutes, and I was talking to them over the phone withint 24 hours, and face to face within 1 week? With eHarmony, it took me about 2-3 weeks to get to the point of verbally agreeing (over the internet) to talk over the phone to decide if we wanted to meet face to face. Don’t get me wrong, online dating sites are wonderful ways to generate dating activity, but there are other options that are more cost and energy effective.

Singles, don’t worry about meeting the perfect guy or gal- just agree to go out on a date. A date is not a wedding proposal, or even an expensive and long evening; rather it is a chance to get to know someone, a chance to practice being genuine with another human, having a nourishing encounter, and then deciding if you want to have date #2, #3, and so on. Just like in sales, dating toward a committed relationship is a numbers game, the more dates you have, the more likely you are to encounter someone who is a phenomenal match for you.

Once you’re actively dating and actively making the same mistakes you’ve made in the past, listen to Dr. Bob Wright talk about how our brains guide our attachment to our partners, and how we can break the pattern of thos same mistakes. Use the code “singlefan” for a discount! http://www.mcssl.com/SecureCart/ViewCart.aspx?sctoken=b820c6c5b20947a29dd098613cb89f72&mid=69FE37A8-142B-4864-A8C9-9F149A487A29&bhcp=1